The Mediator

That’s what I am classified as; a mediator. I have been doing a lot of research with the 16 different personality types, and figuring out which one I am. (I would recommend doing the same) It was very insightful to see how my actions and thoughts coincided with these types of personalities.

I took one of the many tests, that are online, to see what I would turn out to be. I was classified under INFP (variant: Turbulent), which means Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, Perspective/ Prospecting.

I knew from the beginning that I would be shown as introverted, because I tend to act genuinely¬†shy around strangers, until I get to know someone as a friend. I also guessed on the Feeling, because as mentioned in another post, I am an empath and feeling is all I do. The test describes Intuitive as a person who is “very imaginative, open-minded, and curious”. While the Perspective/ Prospective is a person who is very good at improvising, and are considered non-conformists”. The variant, Turbulent, means that I am self-conscious and sensitive to stress.

I had no idea how correct this test would be. I began to research just my type to see how people describe us, and came across this quote that spoke to me. The last sentence said, “You are still a stranger, and I’m overly polite, so I’ll ask all about your day when I’d rather know about your life.” Victoria Erickson, the person behind the quote, is a genius in my books because she knew how to state that, in the right words.

Through this test, it feels like I found out more about myself, that I should’ve known but never really thought about. It also makes me feel not so alone.

If you want to take the test yourself, this is the webpage I used:



Today I was just wandering through Pinterest, and came across this quote. It spoke to me on so many levels. Recently, I have had problems, and the thought of taking away how sensitive I was would somehow solve all of my problems. I thought, if I couldn’t feel things the way I do, then maybe I would be a stronger person, that I would be respected and people would actually care for what I had to say or do. But now, I realize that if I could possibly take away this one trait, everything about me would turn dark.

Why You Are Here

Don’t go right to the philosophical question, “Why are we all here?” No. This is not the blog for that, go somewhere else.

This is a blog to come and read what others are going through. Maybe you will be able to empathize with it, or get some help. I honestly had no plan for this blog, than to just get things off my chest. I am called a wallflower. (Yes, like Perks of Being a Wallflower) I’ve always been shy and an introvert, but as well as an empath. It’s a gift and a curse.

I am the person who stands by the wall at get togethers and observe. I feel more content with just watching and learning, than socializing. The down side to this is when I observe someone in pain, or agony, I can’t help but feel exactly what they feel. This can be very draining, and no one understands what I go through,well none of the ones who are around me. They say that I am just too emotional and sensitive, but an empath can’t help but be those things. I take everything someone says or does, and take it right to the heart.

So, with all of that information on me, I will just be letting all of the things I observe and notice show through my posts.

Journal topic for the day: Write something that made you feel empathy toward someone.